On our second day in Cambodia, my fellow 11 GCP travelers
and I set out with our guide, Sopheara (which translates to “handsome”) to the
countryside. Our plans included visiting an ancient temple and a Buddhist
monastery and having a traditional lunch with a local family, who we were told,
did not speak or understand English. Our guide would translate our questions
and their responses.
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| Photo by Faith Ihongbe |
We arrived at the lunch spot prior to the family and sat
down on the mats at calf-high tables. I
could tell that we all were a little nervous, wondering what the family would
be like and what they would think of us. It wasn’t too long before they arrived
– a grandmother with her daughter, grandson and granddaughter. The grandson (we
found out later that he was 6 years old), chewing on a can pop tab, almost
immediately broke into tears and clung to his mother for security. His mother,
translated through our guide, said he had little exposure to people outside of
their home. How very strange we must have looked to him with our Western
clothing, technology, and different skin and hair colors. The granddaughter (we
found out that she was 8 years old) crouched down next to me at the table and
starred up at me with her big brown eyes. I waved and smiled, trying to look as
unintimidating as possible. I imagine she was just as scared as her brother but
was trying to put on a brave face.
Through our guide, Sopheara, our group learned that the
grandmother was 78 years old and a mother of several daughters. We asked how
many grandchildren she had. When Sopheara translated our question, she laughed
and said in Khmer that she couldn’t remember because she had so many. We also asked about her experiences during
the time of the Khmer Rouge. She had been fortunate and did not lose any family
members, most likely because her family was part of the peasant class and not a
concern/threat to Pol Pot’s regime.
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| Photo by Michael Hollin |
When lunch was over, we passed out Shenandoah University-themed
trinkets to the family. For the grandmother, we presented her with an umbrella
with an automatic opening button to shade her from the intense sun (after all
Cambodia is close to the equator). She blessed us repeatedly in Khmer, and I
couldn’t believe that such a gift (what I considered insignificant and boring) could
result in so much praise and thanks. I’m not even sure, at that point, if she
knew what we had given her, but she nevertheless expressed abundant gratitude.
We gave lanyards to the two children. I struggled with the selection
of these gifts the most because I couldn’t imagine what they would use them for
or why they even would want them. It’s not like they had keys or ID cards to
attach to the lanyards. Still, I was compelled to find something useful about
these lanyards for the children. I placed the lanyard over the little girl’s
head, and remembering that the little boy had been chewing on a can pop tab, I
broke off the nearest can pop tab and clipped it to the lanyard. I also removed
the price tag card from the clip and set it on the table, thinking how rude of
me it was to leave the price tag attached. She looked down at her lanyard and
gave me a half smile. I thought to
myself, “Success! She now sees that she can use this as a necklace. I have
given it a use and now she will like it!” The little girl bowed her head and
put her hands in a lotus pose at her lips to say, “Thank you.” She stood up
from the table to follow her grandmother but reached back to snatch the price
tag I had removed from her lanyard earlier. I will forever recall this as my
most memorable moment in Cambodia. Whereas I felt it rude (and completely
unnecessary) to leave the price tag attached, the little girl perceived the
price tag as part of the gift and equally important to cherish.